I Played the Blame Game

Many years ago I blamed my parents’ for not paving the path for me to do great things.  Or the mere fact I had to work harder than the next person to live a comfortable life because the foundation for success was unspoken of in my home.  Blaming others for where we are in life does not change our current position. We are where we are, until we make a choice to be in a better place.  Undoubtedly, I needed someone to take the blame to justify what I considered to be my failure.  My maladaptive behaviors were a result of my cognitive distortions which had me believing, I am less than. I was hurting while I tried to figure out life, as I desperately wanted to know how could I possibly make it out of high school as a teen mom, or go to college, etc.? A long time ago, I decided not to let my past define who I am.  Although my past plays a significant role in my life, I am not my past. I decided to make a choice in my life to accept where I am and accept what is. Once I recognized the “what is” of my life, I grew mentally and emotionally.  I learned the power of self-love and created my own path to success.Quote on starting over

Today is a great day to accept the “what is.”  What keeps you from accepting your “what is?”  Stay encouraged!

Tren B.


25 thoughts on “I Played the Blame Game

  1. Growth from any situation is success! An adaptive mind is a mind equipped with the necessities of survival in tough situations. Coupled with resiliency, (which you obviously have) no goal is unachievable!

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  2. This is a much needed reminder. I find myself often wanting to blame my upbringing for why I never exposed myself to certain things, but I’m learning that I am not bound by that. Thanks for sharing and being so honest.

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    1. Yes, at some point we have our own choices. I realized that although I was not provided the ideal childhood, I learned to make better choices to prevent the “generation curse.”


  3. This is such a great reminder that we are all responsible for our own choices going forward, no matter what our past might look like. It’s so easy to get caught in that blame game.

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  4. Thank you for sharing, I’ve played the blame game letting past circumstances shape my behaviors but with the Lords salvation I was able to see how my behavior affected myself and others, changing my attitude about life opened doors I didn’t know existed and now see taking responsibility makes me powerful!


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