Resilience in Military Spouses..Part 2

“The resiliency that is forced on military spouses, families, and service members is dynamic. It’s unscheduled, tough, learn as you go, unwritten rules and regulations which go unspoken amongst the ranks of all military spouses.”

My grand idea to deal with the scenario is to start my own blog website and volunteer at my church to be a Stephen Minister, again resiliency! BTW, mister was not too thrilled about me taking up another task because he feels as though I have too many responsibilities. This is a “snippet”of what non-traditional military families are comprised of. I certainly do not wish this entry to appear as a pity party, complaint department, or an alert to local government that military families need urgent care attention while spouses are deployed. I simply wish to honor the resiliency of my family and all military families verbally and perhaps enlighten some lovely readers on some common unknowns that may go forsaken if not spoken on. I say that to say this; I’ve enjoyed many moments throughout my husband’s military service and honestly wouldn’t change much about it. My husband puts forth great effort to illustrate his appreciation for my children and I. I actually revel in the fact I get to see what a non-traditional military family looks like from the inside and I hold my head high that I have stood beside a phenomenal man while seeing and experiencing some things not everyone is blessed to witness. I also appreciate the unnatural characteristic military service has inherently taught me for resiliency. I have gone about my last 16 plus years since I met my husband, taking for granted the life lessons and resiliency training military service has forced upon me. I complained very little. I adapted and overcame, learned the military friendly jargon associated with spousal service, kissed my husband goodbye for an undetermined amount of time within days notice and can even tell military time within a second’s question! I can not recall how resilient I was at the beginning of this journey. But as we reach the end of his career, I can tell you the only moment I blink an eye of possible resentment is when my children, husband, another military family, or even myself experience a form of non-appreciation from someone who “just doesn’t know.” And are quick to minimize the resiliency it takes for military spouses to endure constant unpredictableness and sacrifice for the love of our service member and our country.

The resiliency that is forced on military spouses, families, and service members is dynamic. It’s unscheduled, tough, learn as you go, unwritten rules and regulations which go unspoken amongst the ranks of all military spouses. A respect that is not necessarily a code of passage, but understood and commonly acknowledged amongst the familiar ones. My children have been in public with our Chief Petty Officer on numerous occasions. There is rarely a lack of respect and appreciation displayed towards him. I admire my husband because in those situations, he commonly deflects that admiration and appreciation towards our girls and myself, simply stating “I couldn’t do it without them” again that’s resiliency of a military spouse and family.  I am a resilient military spouse.

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10 thoughts on “Resilience in Military Spouses..Part 2

  1. I never understood how my grandma managed to raise 5 kids, oftentimes overseas in unfamiliar countries, and most of the time with my grandfather in an entirely different country. The strength and resilience of military spouses, just to get through the day-to-day stuff without your partner is phenomenal.

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  2. Thank you for your service. It is not just your husband that serves our country but the whole family. I don’t know how families do it when their loved one is gone so much. I am sure you have to fight worry as well.

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  3. Great post! I agree with the previous commenter who said it’s not just your husband who serves our country, it’s the whole family. All of you are sacrificing and overcoming so many obstacles. I thank all of you for your service and I’m glad it’s made your family resilient.

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  4. Thank you so much for sharing the sacrifices you and your family make for the rest of us. It has to be really tough to have to deal with the unpredictability of it especially when you have young kids. It is amazing how resilient we can be in dealing with the life we have to live. And So glad to meet a Stephen minister. I did not know that such a thing even existed until I have had to deal with some hard stuff and have needed one so I will be talking to her this week. Thank you for all you do and all the roles you play.

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  5. I was an army wife for 5 years and you are definately right. I can recall so many occasions when I felt as though I was in the military myself. However I believe that soldiers are revered more in the US than here in the UK.

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