Toxic Relationships That We Love

Sure, I asked myself over a thousand times “why do I like being a part of these toxic relationships?” Now when I mention “relationships” I do not mean just romantic but friendships as well. Whew! Not only did it take one, but about three toxic relationships later when I was able to understand why I did. Believe it or not, it was because of hope. I had hope as small as a mustard seed that things would be different or that I could change him/her. But that hope was hiding the root, which was fear.

I am sure we all have some experiences of being involved in toxic relationships that were difficult to get rid of. Not by force, but because we actually LOVED those relationships. I know it may sound crazy to love something that is not good for you -the truth is we do it every day. From what we eat to the things that we do to our bodies. This has been an area of my life that held me captive for a long time.

Yep, I said it fear! I was afraid to let go because I did not think it could get any better for me. I use to say things like, “this is as good as it gets Ty, suck it up and take it or be alone.” Some of you who will read this and know me personally may be surprised that I struggled. I struggled with this fear because I could never fit in. Tried dating the brotha with the gangsta lean, tried befriending the baddest chicks, tried to keep up because I was afraid to stand alone and be different.

How did I get out and make it through? I got tired, and you will too! I got tired of trying to squeeze my square into a circle. I got tired of investing in relationships/friendships that did not serve me well. I became so damn restless, it almost killed me. Matter of fact it did, well parts of me. It killed my dreams, hopes, and desires, I gave it all too much power to do even that. I had to change, I wanted out.Flowers, book and tea mug

Where am I now? Dodging toxic relationships like a mug, lol. Doing so by being a good investor. I was good at investing but not a good investor, if that makes sense. Praying about those I allow in my space, surrounding myself around others who share the same interests, and simply not being afraid to be Tysheira, Ty, TyTy all day every day, haha. What about you? Are you currently struggling with this or have in the past, how did you make it through? Let me know in the comments.

As always, leave inspired!

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owl picMy name is Tysheira and I am the creator of Leave Inspired. I became passionate about blogging after realizing that as an introvert, I had a lot to talk about. I’ve always been the person that everyone came to while enduring some sort of hardship in life. I wanted to create my own platform to discuss the things that no one likes to talk about.

I am pursuing my MSW specializing in Mental Health. My goal is to become a Licensed Counselor Social Worker (LCSW) to help treat those that suffer from Mood and Anxiety Disorders. I am passionate about Mental Health and working on various ways to raise awareness and normalize it in the African American community.

I love all things of the arts, so I guess that makes me an Aesthete. Love to travel and eat good foods! I enjoy engaging with people, so do not be shy to send me a message.

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32 thoughts on “Toxic Relationships That We Love

  1. Enjoyed this post. It was thought provoking. I probably had a couple of toxic relationships during my youth, but thankfully as I grew older, matured, and realized what I wanted and deserved out of my friendships and relationships, that changed. My friends are all loving and supportive, and so is my husband of 24 years. I think in my younger years I was mirroring my mother’s behavior. But when I got older I started studying the Bible and it taught me so many things that helped me to improve my life, including my relationships. It stuck, and today I can say I’m toxic-relationship free. 😊

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  2. I spent most of my young adult life in toxic relationships. This post really hit home with me. I very much stuck with them for fear that I would never find anything better or that I could change him/help him. My heart was so welcoming and vulnerable in every relationship I had which ultimately led to heartbreak and problems with self-confidence. It is definitely a topic that needs awareness to. Thank you for sharing your story!

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  3. I myself have never struggled with the need to fit in – yes, I always stood up and no it wasn’t always easy… but I couldn’t be any different. However, I know very what it is to be good at investing but not a good investor when it comes to romantic relationships… or even friendships… the goal wasn’t to fit in, but more like thinking I can’t get better friendships/relationships than this, I should actually be grateful to have these. They are as good as they can get…. right? NO. Thank god I know better now! Or so I hope so haha

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  4. It can take a long time to come to the realization that you can’t change someone else. You are only responsible for your own feelings and behavior. If someone isn’t making you happy, start increasing your distance away from him/her.

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  5. Loved this post! I have dealt with toxic relationships once and learnt my lesson. like you said we just gets tired and stop trying to fit in. I completely agree 💞 shared this post with some of my girls! 😊

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  6. We stay in toxic relationships because we’re afraid we are not loved and wanted. But they can be exhausting to constantly try to fit into the box designed for you by someone else. The best thing is to cut toxic relationships out to find newer and better relationships.

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