The Month Of The Military Child: An Interview With Our Five Girls

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Military life is something I am extremely passionate about.  I have been “married” to the Navy for almost 14 years.  I have shared with you in Resilience in Military Spouses and Resilience in Military Spouses..Part 2 about some of the sacrifices I have made as a military spouse.  Some will never know what being married to the military (specifically active duty) means. There are definitely pros and cons, thrills and chills associated to military service. Therefore, it is always an honor to talk “military life.”  For many that do not understand the military life, the military (basically) dictates our life (where we live, where the girls’ attend school, if/when we can take a vacation, etc).  Truly, when Chief serves, the girls’ and I serve as well.  Military children are forced to be resilient, learning a life of servitude, trials and tribulations. Often times, military children are separated from their active duty servicemembers for months and years at a time.  Military children are forced to move….not move to the next town but move long distances and many times, move to another country.  Can you imagine how that may disrupt the life of a military child? Education, friendships, sports and more are impacted because of the responsibility and obligation to serve our country.Purple flowers and that says celebrate a military child

Military families tend to just pick up and go with the flow of things.  Very few times do we ask the question “why”.  Typically, it’s the “what.”  What’s next? This month I wanted to take the opportunity to honor our five military children.  I love these girls’ to death! I love the relationship they have with one another.  They have overcome so many challenges (not just military life). I was given the opportunity to ask each of our girls three questions to express their experiences with being a military child.

Military Child Month Interview Questions:

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Samirah age 22

What would you say is the most challenging aspect of being a military child? The most challenging aspect of being a military child is moving within short notice. Sometimes it could be difficult to build relationships just because you never know when you could have the next order to move.

What would you say is the most rewarding aspect of being a military child? The most rewarding aspect of being a military child is that most of the time we are served first when it comes to education. We are offered many discounts. Lastly knowing that my dad fights and risk his life for our country.

If there were one thing you wish others would understand about military life or something you feel they need to know, what would that be? One thing I wish people would realize, that not all military kids are spoiled. Also knowing that (we) military families work hard and make sacrifices to live a comfortable life.

 

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MaTeah age 19

What would you say is the most challenging aspect of being a military child? The most challenging aspect of being a military child now that I am of age and I have to take care of my own doctor’s appointment, medical bills, etc. is that finding a doctor in my area that I can go to. For example, I have to travel outside of town in order to schedule with a specialty doctor (OBGYN). On the other hand, is it actually worth it, they take care of me very well.

What would you say is the most rewarding aspect of being a military child? So far the most rewarding aspect of being a military child for me would have to be all the help that I received to pay for college. During college, there was always scholarship meetings and clubs just for people affiliated with the military. I even have an extra advisor to help along the way as well.

If there were one thing you wish others would understand about military life or something you feel they need to know, what would that be? I feel like a lot of people should know that even being just a military child could teach you a lot of life lessons that should always be remembered. For example, things don’t always go as planned when you have someone in the military, but in the end, things will always work out and end up for the better.

 

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Gabby age 13

What would you say is the most challenging aspect of being a military child? I would say the most challenging aspect of being a military child is when your loved ones are away.  For example, my dad living in California caused him to miss my 13th Birthday and he also spent his birthday alone.

What would you say is the most rewarding aspect of being a military child? The most honorable aspect of being a military child is being able to say “my dad is in the Navy.” Also, I think military families are highly respected.  Military discounts are a plus.

If there were one thing you wish others would understand about military life or something you feel they need to know, what would that be? I wish people would understand… military life isn’t easy.  Love ones missing birthdays and important events aren’t fun.

 

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Arielle age 13

What would you say is the most challenging aspect of being a military child? The most challenging aspect of being a military child is the schedules.  My dad’s schedules always change.  I use to see my dad on the weekend since he worked night.  There were times when I would see him in the mornings and he would drive us to school.

What would you say is the most rewarding aspect of being a military child? The most rewarding aspect of being a military child is being able to say “my dad is helping to protect our country.”

If there were one thing you wish others would understand about military life or something you feel they need to know, what would that be? I wish people would understand having a parent in the military is harder than it appears because military families move often and my dad’s schedule is constantly changing.

 

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Not pictured…Daisja age 16

What would you say is the most challenging aspect of being a military child? The most challenging aspect of being a military child is that I don’t get to see or talk to my dad as much as I would want to. My dad lives in California and with him constantly moving around and me living in Maryland I don’t see nor get the chance to talk with him when I need to.

What would you say is the most rewarding aspect of being a military child? The most rewarding aspect of being a military child is traveling whenever I am able to. In addition, the wonderful insurance is always rewarding for me.

 If there were one thing you wish others would understand about military life or something you feel they need to know, what would that be? It’s not as easy as it seems because with me living with my mom and my dad being the one that’s in the military. I’m not able to visit or up and go as often as I want to. He and his family aren’t able to come up here as often as they would because they are always moving around.

 

Celebrate a military child today and every day, they often experience many changes throughout the servicemembers tour. Pictured: Teah, Arielle, Chief, Gabby & Daisja.

If you are reading this and you are a military child, what would be some answers to the above questions? If you work or know any military children, ask them one of the questions above.  Get to know them a little better. Comment below with a .   #PurpleUp

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26 thoughts on “The Month Of The Military Child: An Interview With Our Five Girls

  1. Thanks for your post. I’m a retired military wife, and also grew up as a military child. I wrote about it in my book “Camp Follower One Army Brat’s Story” by Michele Sabad. Although my experiences were Canadian, and of an older generation, it’s surprising, yet comforting, to know my cultural upbringing is still so shared around the world, and throughout time (the term “camp follower” is older than the Roman Legions!). It’s nice that society is now recognizing our unique military culture that we didn’t even sign up for – we were born into it. I wouldn’t have changed a thing. 😉 Please check out my blog and book, https://wordpress.com/post/stevieszabad.com/602

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  2. This is interesting to know what all things the military families and kids go through. There are many pros and cons too. I have much respect for all who are serving the nation. I can say you should be proud of yourself as you belong to military family. Keep sharing. I love to read more. I enjoyed reading this.

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  3. Being a military wife and especially you with so many girls raising them mostly by yourself is surely very difficult. I have active military in my own family and I know the struggles they face raising kids, being present, moving around, etc. But it is such an honorable profession and the importance of this job probably needs to be remembered often. As you point out there are good and bad – no doubt a sacrifice for the military person and the whole family – but the life lessons given by the military in the long run will certainly be worth it.

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  4. I, too, was going to write about the importance of the military child. My oldest has really been going through the motions with me and my career these last two years, so I really want to bring light to what the kids really go through.

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    1. Danie, I think writing about your child’s experience is a great idea to shed some light on what military children endure. How old is you oldest? Thank you for your service!

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  5. Such an insightful post! I love that you and your girls share the challenges as well as the joys. Thanks so much for this peek into military family life!

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  6. Very beautifully written and an interesting read. I love reading an interview blog! I’ve been thinking about doing one soon on my blog. However, this is very touching. My husband served as a Marine. Thanks so much for sharing!

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  7. I admire your resiliency as a military wife. It is something I knew nothing about and I can only imagine the challenges that you face but I can tell that it is very beneficial in many ways especially in that it teaches the children in military families that life can change and they will be well prepared for whatever life throws their way. I love the interview aspect of the post as we get to see differnt points of view on the same topic 🙂

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