My Journey Is Not A Race

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What does mental health mean to you?

To me, mental health is just as important if not more important than physical health. If my mental health isn’t in a good place, the rest of my health and life truly isn’t either. If I am struggling mentally then it means I’m not working out, I’m not eating well, and I most definitely am not taking the time to do any part of my self-care routine. It will show in all aspects of my life.

What are your Mental Health Conditions?

Anxiety, Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, PTSD

When were you diagnosed:

6 Years ago

Did anything/event precede your diagnosis:

MYSELF! I refused to believe everything that was happening to me was mental. I thought I was “fine.” I spent thousands on various doctors looking for an answer in my physical health. At the time, I would have rather been told I was dying of a physical condition rather than being told I needed to see a therapist. I absolutely refused to believe it until the beginning of year five. That’s when I finally decided to make a change and put all of my time and energy into getting better.

What were the reaction/support from family/friends:

“Supportive” but no one really truly understood what I was going through unless they witnessed me having a panic attack that turned into a pseudoseizure. I tried to make sure no one saw them by either drowning my anxiety with alcohol or by not showing up to social situations at all.

What would you consider to be an everyday challenge for you?

Leaving the house (but I am getting much better at this).

Driving (I no longer drive).

Going to social functions.

Constantly thinking “I’m overdue for a panic attack, it’s going to happen today.”

Being around loud music or a lot of people.

Being in cars with people I don’t know (lyft or uber).

What treatments have you used to help overcome your condition?

I wrote an awesome blog post on how I overcame anxiety, panic disorder, and agoraphobia, head over and check it out. In that post, I detail step by step the treatments I tried and actions I took to get to where I am today. I am now able to leave the house, go to social functions, and accomplish so much more in my day than I could one year ago.

Do you feel the treatments were positive interventions?

Some did, some didn’t. Example: Hypnotherapy gave me a panic attack, and I ran out of the office in the middle of it, but CBT or Exposure Therapy is something I use every single day and it works wonderfully. Scary as hell at first, but worth every moment.

How do you avoid relapse?

I have accepted that this is a journey, not a race. There is no finish line, I can only get better at living my best life. That some days I may struggle, but those struggles don’t define who I am.

One thing you would like to inform others who are struggling with a condition or anything you would like to provide education on:

It’s 2018, I’m only 30, and I’ve been to too many funerals from people in my life who didn’t think they had anyone to turn to, to talk to, or who felt they were not loved. If you are struggling, feeling unworthy, feeling anxious and like no one understands you. Please believe me when I say, you are not alone and you are worthy. You don’t know me, but I promise you there is a common ground we can connect on. It could be passion we both share or a struggle we are both familiar with. There is always common ground to cultivate a connection on. There is always someone out there who will listen, who will care for you, and who will make you laugh until you cry. I know it’s so easy to close the door and shut the world out, curl up alone and cry it out and yes, sometimes we need to do that, sometimes we HAVE TO do that. But when you’re done, text someone and go to lunch, or a movie, or the park. Do something. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love and you are loved so much. I can’t begin to say this enough, but even if I’ve never talked to you in my life and you reach out to me, I will talk to you, I will compliment you, I will walk you through that struggle. That is a promise.

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Whitney pens the blog “Whitney In Wonderland.”  She is a Traveling Lifestyle Blogger with Panic Disorder and Celiac Disease. She creates delicious recipes, travels as often as possible and talks about “taboo” topics. She explains her “safe place” as the little corner of the internet, and I hope you will consider it yours too. Cheers!


  1. Fiorella Madsen (@lacasadefreja)

    October 23, 2018 at 11:47 AM

    How important is to understand and learn what other people are struggling for in their life’s. Thanks for sharing this post!

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 3:02 PM

      Empathy in respect to others is important for many reasons. Whitney speaks on the point of often feeling like there’s no one to turn to, and suffering in silence. Sometimes just being an ear is more then enough.

  2. Poovanesh

    October 23, 2018 at 12:09 PM

    The best healing takes time. It’s important not to rush the process. This post made me realize how much we take our mental health for granted. I wish you all the best and may you get better and live your best life in time.

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 2:59 PM

      I believe that is exactly Whitney’s point. Healing definitely takes time and effort. It is extremely dangerous to neglect personal mental health.

  3. charlottejessop

    October 23, 2018 at 2:14 PM

    I think the world is slow waking up to the reality of the lives of those with mental health issues. And it is thanks to people like you speaking out and telling us what it is like. Thank you!

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 2:57 PM

      Yes, mental health in years passed had gone slightly under the radar. It’s a part of health study that is very young. Whitney does a great job divulging some intimate details of her personal struggles. Thanks for visiting!

  4. aregencygirltravels

    October 23, 2018 at 3:01 PM

    I definitely agree with what you said about taking care of your mental health as much as your physical health! Sometimes I forget about that, but the truth is, if my mental health is not great, then the rest of me is not great. So true!

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 2:51 PM

      Exactly, I took a lot of points from Whitney on this script. Ultimately self worth and growth is worth fighting for and the majority of the work is internal!

  5. Whitney Sartain

    October 23, 2018 at 6:25 PM

    Thanks for sharing my story! I hope to help others speak up and know that we don’t have to be silent about mental health!

  6. Jasmine

    October 23, 2018 at 8:23 PM

    Thank you for being so transparent in this post! Mental health is so important and I actually learned a lot reading this! Thank you!

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 2:48 PM

      Thankyou so much for visiting and reading! I’m so glad you were able to learn from this blog. Whitney certainly did a great job at making her journey a teachable moment!

  7. BehindTheSchmile

    October 24, 2018 at 2:58 AM

    It takes a lot to share such stories- thank you for being open! 🙂

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 2:46 PM

      Yes, Whitney’s courage is obvious in her actions and writing! Thankyou so much for visiting my blog and reading!


    October 24, 2018 at 4:37 AM

    The last answer is too good. Whitney is really brave who can talk about these things and I must say there is a lot of struggle to beat your own fears. Happy to read more inspirational stories here.

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 2:43 PM

      Absolutely! Whitney definitely is courageous and assertive towards her own treatment/growth. She makes it clear to understand the dynamics to her fight to overcome! Thanks for reading!

  9. veebeecouture

    October 24, 2018 at 6:49 AM

    This is an incredible post… I suffer from anxiety and as a result, insomnia. When I was first diagnosed, I wanted to be told it was something physical because then at least people would understand. Luckily, after years of therapy and treatment, I’m in a much better place 🙂 thank you for sharing ♥ xx

  10. iiamjones

    October 24, 2018 at 7:47 AM

    It takes great courage to share your story with the world. However, I’m grateful that you have as someone out there isn’t so brave and are possibly struggling with some of the same conditions. Thank you for sharing your story and I pray your journey to healing continues to flourish in your own time of course. <3

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 2:40 PM

      Yes, Whitney displayed great amounts of courage both through her story, to even writing her story for the public.

  11. Brittany

    October 24, 2018 at 7:52 AM

    I can’t express enough how much I appreciate you writing on this. Because of the stigma around mental health, people are afraid to speak up and speak out about these real issues. It takes talking about it for people to realize they’re not alone — and that there are solutions. Thank you so much for sharing your story!

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 2:35 PM

      Whitney does a magnificent job of speaking on the necessity of recognizing the amount of effort that must be self induced, for personal growth. Yes, there are resources that will help, but a great deal of effort must come internally, via recognition.

  12. Brie

    October 24, 2018 at 5:33 PM

    Great job on being open and honest, with not only yourself but with your readers.

    1. Trenye B.

      October 28, 2018 at 12:25 AM

      Thanks. It’s a personal battle, but more then worth the fight!

  13. Delux Designs (DE), LLC

    October 25, 2018 at 10:52 AM

    This post makes me remember this period in my life and it was terrifying for me but I have learned to accept things as they are and making way towards better. Thanks so much for sharing!

    1. Trenye B.

      October 27, 2018 at 8:38 PM

      Thanks for reading, and you sound extremely strong. Congrats for that!

  14. Brittany

    October 25, 2018 at 11:32 AM

    Thank you for sharing your journey with us. We need more ppl to be open and honest about their mental health experience so we can support one another adequately.

    1. Trenye B.

      October 27, 2018 at 9:34 PM

      Absolutely and thanks for visiting my blog! It has always been a personal struggle for me to open up. I understand, firsthand mental health and focus to aid others with theirs.

  15. Arie Ne'Kole | accordingtoariee

    October 25, 2018 at 5:54 PM

    I know how you feeling. I don’t know how I get through the day sometimes but I do. It’s strong for you to tell your story.

    1. Trenye B.

      October 27, 2018 at 9:31 PM

      Understanding the “why” you get through the day, should help you understand the “how” you get through every day. What motivates you or makes you happy? Thanks for visiting and sharing!

  16. Mom Life Optimized

    November 16, 2018 at 2:30 PM

    I totally agree with you! Mental health is as important, if not more important, as physical health. We really need to understand ourselves and how we function and what we need before we can move on to functioning well in this world.

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