A few months ago, I shared with you my journey to becoming a foster parent.  Since writing Becoming A Foster Parent, I have been asked several questions regarding different foster care programs.  Today, I will provide some insight into foster care programs.  Be mindful, this is also dependant on your state and the foster care agency you decide to use for the licensure process.  Nevertheless, I will also discuss the foster care program Chief and I decided to get our license in. **This is our journey to becoming a foster parent.  Continue reading “WHAT IS FOSTER CARE? WHAT PROGRAM DID CHIEF & I CHOOSE?”


Sometimes taking a break helps you to regroup and gain clarity on your life. Taking breaks can be liberating, especially from things that somehow hold you hostage.  I think we all deserve a break from things even if it’s what we enjoy. Too much of anything isn’t good, right? Continue reading “WHAT I LEARNED BY ASKING FOR HELP”

Why Routines Are Important for Your Mental Health

Routine (noun.) a sequence of actions regularly followed; a fixed program
Routines. Most commonly, we hear and refer to routines when we are talking about young children. I often hear parents talking about not wanting to get their toddler off their routine, because then they become difficult (and usually cranky!). Continue reading “Why Routines Are Important for Your Mental Health”

5 Things I Wish I Would Have Known Before I Started Blogging

I received so much support from family and friends when I initially started blogging. My first blog went live September 18, 2018, and it was shared almost 50 times.  I am sure my family and friends wanted to share my new adventure, even if they did not quite know what “blogging” meant (I am forever thankful for their support). To be honest, I did not Continue reading “5 Things I Wish I Would Have Known Before I Started Blogging”

Forgiveness and Healing

One of the hardest things that I had to face as an adult is forgiveness. When I think about how hard it is, I ask myself why it is worth it? The things that we face in life at the hands of others can be painful; however, to gain healing requires us to forgive. As I am writing this post, I am reminded of how long it took and will take me to forgive people for failed Continue reading “Forgiveness and Healing”

5 Tips To Surviving A Long Distance Relationship

Surviving a long distance relationship has been a difficult challenge for both Chief and I. You may think after 13 plus years it gets easier, it doesn’t! Over time and with each separation, you grow in all aspects (I am thankful for growth). You learn ways to make difficult times work with each separation. Many military families can attest to that. The picture represents our first deployment as a married couple. And boy was it an experience!  Continue reading “5 Tips To Surviving A Long Distance Relationship”

Toxic Relationships That We Love

Sure, I asked myself over a thousand times “why do I like being a part of these toxic relationships?” Now when I mention “relationships” I do not mean just romantic but friendships as well. Whew! Not only did it take one, but about three toxic relationships later when I was able to understand why I did. Believe it or not, it was because of hope. I had hope as small as a mustard seed that things would be different or that I could change him/her. But that hope was hiding the root, which was fear. Continue reading “Toxic Relationships That We Love”

Becoming A Foster Parent

img_4596One of my 2018 goals were to complete our therapeutic foster parent training. Becoming a foster parent had always been just a thought. Chief and I would talk often about either adopting or fostering. But we made so many excuses to not invest in either: our house isn’t big enough, we already have too many children to care for, we have too much going on, not enough money, etc. Just excuse after excuse. Continue reading “Becoming A Foster Parent”

Strategies For Communicating With Your Teen

dayne-topkin-78982-unsplashLet’s face it, having sex-related topics, including relationships, STDs and pregnancy with my tweens is always an uncomfortable topic for me. Ironic right, as my profession is indeed counseling to adolescents and their families.  But it is a positive parenting practice with hopes to have a positive factor when my girls’ have to make choices.  I still feel as though they are too young to be exposed to that stuff.  But I also know it’s 2018, times have changed and I’m nowhere near ready to be a grandmother or deal with other issues tied to young teens and sex!  So, no topic is beyond reproach. Continue reading “Strategies For Communicating With Your Teen”