My mental health journey began many years ago, and has been, probably THE MOST difficult health issue that I’ve had to face. We hear in the news and in our families, how mental health tends to be taboo and something most people just don’t talk about, or want to bring up. Many times, it’s due to not wanting to face the root cause of the issue, or perhaps even the work it will take to fix it.
Many years ago I blamed my parents’ for not paving the path for me to do great things. Or the mere fact I had to work harder than the next person to live a comfortable life because the foundation for success was unspoken of in my home. Blaming others for where we are in life does not change our current position. We are where we are, until we make a choice to be in a better place. Undoubtedly, I needed someone to take the blame to justify what I considered to be my failure. My maladaptive behaviors were a result of my cognitive distortions which had me believing, I am less than. I was hurting while I tried to figure out life, as I desperately wanted to know how could I possibly make it out of high school as a teen mom, or go to college, etc.? A long time ago, I decided not to let my past define who I am. Although my past plays a significant role in my life, I am not my past. I decided to make a choice in my life to accept where I am and accept what is. Once I recognized the “what is” of my life, I grew mentally and emotionally. I learned the power of self-love and created my own path to success.
Today is a great day to accept the “what is.” What keeps you from accepting your “what is?” Stay encouraged!